Paul Scholes' Sacrifice: Stepping Away from Punditry to Care for Special Needs Son
Former Manchester United midfielder Paul Scholes has revealed the heart-wrenching reason behind his decision to give up his punditry career. Find out how his relationship with his non-verbal autistic son, Aiden, changed his priorities.
Paul Scholes has opened up about the heart-wrenching reason why he called time on his punditry career. The ex-Manchester United midfielder used to be a regular on TNT Sports on Thursday night's during his former side's Europa League campaign. However, he's revealed that he stepped away from regular punditry duties in order to take better care of his non-verbal autistic son, Aiden.Scholes has three children - Aaron, Alica and Aiden, who at 20 years of age, is the youngest. However, owing to Aiden's autism, Scholes made the decision to step away from his role with TNT Sports after United's European campaign.As the former midfielder as absent on a Thursday night, it would leave Aiden agitated, so Scholes opted to do less punditry work with TNT Sports and has instead stepped up his appearances on the Overlap's Stick to Football podcast. Scholes took over the role vacated by former Liverpool defender Jamie Carragher.Scholes though has revealed that the new setup works better for him and his son, who he now spends more time with. Speaking on Stick to Football, Scholes opened up on his son's condition, saying: "I made a decision this year because of Aiden, obviously due to his special needs you might know about."All the work I do now is just around his routines cos he has quite a strict routine every single day, so I just decided everything I’m going to do it is around Aiden. Everything I’m going to do now just works around him, I do studio work, but everything is built around his day."Last season on Thursday nights I’d do the Europa League for Man Utd, that’s the night I’d usually have him, so he was getting all agitated, biting and scratching. He knows the pattern’s not there straight away."And I did that for years really, always thinking I’ve got to stop this at some point so I had the chance to do the podcast and I thought that would suit me more. Well… not me, Aiden."Scholes previously opened up with the challenges of having an autistic child on a BBC documentary in 2021, which was hosted by Paddy McGuinness, who has three autistic children himself. "For those first few years of being diagnosed you think he’s just delayed, eventually he’ll start talking," Scholes told McGuinness."When you get to 12, 13, 14… now he’s 16 it’s never going to happen. He’s never going to be neurotypical, but he’s great and you have to accept it. I’ve never said this before. I’m looking at him thinking he might have to go into care. I just don’t know how you handle that."Scholes revealed that the initial diagnosis affected his performances on the pitch, adding: "We got the diagnosis. We were playing Derby away. I was terrible, absolutely shocking. I didn’t want to be there. Head was gone. I was worrying about autism, reading, trying to find out anything I could."The former United midfielder currently has a podcast - The Good, The Bad and The Football - alongside McGuinness and ex-teammate Nicky Butt.Scholes also revealed he was dropped by then United boss Sir Alex Ferguson while attempting to handle the situation privately. "I never got a break from it, even when playing - it was very hard in those days," Scholes added."I don't think they diagnosed it until he was two-and-a-half years old. But you knew early something was wrong, but then you get the diagnosis, and I'd never heard of it. I remember the manager dropped me the week after, and I hadn't told anyone. I ended up telling them a few weeks later, as it was quite hard."Even now, I don't want sympathy or anything. I just thought, even if I did speak to someone about it, it's not going to help Aiden. The big concern now is, because you're getting a bit older, what happens when you're not here? That's the thing that's now on my mind all the time."
The Sacrifice for Aiden
Paul Scholes made the difficult choice to step away from his regular punditry duties in order to prioritize the care of his youngest son, Aiden, who is non-verbal and autistic. Scholes' decision came as he noticed the impact of his absence on Aiden's routine and well-being.
A New Focus
Instead of continuing with his punditry work, Scholes opted to spend more time with Aiden and adjusted his schedule to revolve around his son's needs and routines. This change allowed Scholes to be more present for Aiden and reduce his stress and agitation.
The Role of Podcasting
Paul Scholes transitioned to appearing on the Stick to Football podcast, taking over from Jamie Carragher. This new platform provided Scholes with a more flexible and accommodating schedule that better suited Aiden's requirements, demonstrating his commitment to putting his son first.
Challenges and Acceptance
In a candid conversation, Scholes shared the challenges of raising a child with autism and the emotional journey of coming to terms with Aiden's condition. Despite the difficulties, Scholes expressed his love for Aiden and his dedication to ensuring his well-being.
Looking Ahead
With a focus on building his life around Aiden, Paul Scholes continues to navigate the complexities of parenting a special needs child. His openness about the struggles and joys of caring for Aiden highlights the importance of family and unconditional love.
